Mindstructions on how to properly play a mind game

The following game is fictional. Any resemblance to actual persons or events is entirely coincidental. Or not.

Description: I will get close to you and you will fall in love with me. This game -with no name- is one of the classic mind games to gain, preserve and acquire control, primarily intented for manipulative narcissists, cynicals and even victims in denial who avoid any kind of emotional attachment. The aim of the game is to sharpen and increase the skill level of mental manipulation and emotional intelligence of the subject.

Rules: These are some standard rules of PDA that are absolute and inviolable:
1. Do not hold my hand (neither in public, nor in private.)
2. Do not lay your head in my lap.
3. Do not let me caress your hair or face.

Mindstructions:
Every time I flirt with you and make you smile, try to impress you, show you that I like you through body language, give you over-exaggerated smiles and long stares, try to get you to open emotionally, or favor you more than the others, you will earn 1 point.

Every time you ignore or neglect me, reject me, criticize me, hurt my pride, belittle me in front of everyone, make me look stupid, or talk about me behind my back, I will earn 1 point.

Every time we try each other’s patience or push each other to our limits, the one first to explode will lose 1 point.

Every time I try psychological tricks or mind games on you and you fall right into my trap, I will earn 2 points. Similarly, whenever I fall into your trap, you will earn 2 points.

Every time you call me “crazy” or “psycho”, I earn 5 bonus points. Similarly, if you kiss me with your own initiative. Same if you yell at me. You, on the other hand, will earn the bonus points every time I squeeze and hug you so tight you feel like suffocating.

Bonus tricks:
1. players can use “pawns” to earn more points from the emotional confusion of the opponent.
2. whoever decides first the field of action is more likely to win.
3. for more points you can confuse your opponent with consecutive unrelated questions (you can use this trick when you are in doubt or at a disadvantaged position, too.

Author’s note: There are no time constraints. It’s up to the players to settle the time limit.

Finish: the player who ends up with the most points, loses.

Wanna play?

In praise of healing

Take care of your body by drinking plenty of water. Take care of your mind by meditating. Take care of your heart by learning to let go of everything you fear to lose. Take care of your soul by loving someone deeply. Yourself. Aknowledge your own self-worth.

But then, there's denial,  the bête noire of the human race. For example, when we break up, or should I say when someone breaks up with us, we tend to run after them trying to change their minds, to make them see and feel our love. We beg them for a second change. We want to prove them that our love is still there and all they have to do is feel it. All we think about is: "I can't let this happen. Every passing hour is crucial. What if he forgets me? What if he finds someone new? I have to change his mind, no matter what." And we start calling them, and texting them, and calling them again, and stalking them, and texting them again. They, on the other hand, won't even give a f*ck about all this or will respond with something like this: "It's over. Accept it and move on. It's for the best." Then, we (our Ego, actually) start blaming them and trying to make them feel sorry for us. Self-pity at its highest. Isn't it awfully pathetic? But, it happens to all of us when we're heartbroken. After all, everyone knows the five stages of grief. Back to our point, though. Let's face it. He won't change his mind and it doesn't matter 'cause HE broke my heart and I deserve someone better. Read it again and again till you feel it.  All we can do is let go and move on. But how? That's the hard part.

First, get your sh*t, sorry, I mean, life together and ask yourself "Will it matter 10 years from now?" Then, set a goal. A tiny, little goal like "I want to get the trash out of my life no matter what. It won't be easy and it will feel awful but, oh wait, I already feel desperate." When you set that damn goal, time to get things done. So, in the case of the break-up I mentioned before, stop calling them. Stop texting them. Stop stalking them. Stop doing anything that has to do with them. They broke up with you, from now on they don't exist.

Setting boundaries is a skill. It’s not always easy, but it is simple. Name your limits. Start small. Set 3 personal boundaries today and stick with them for a week. Heck, go for a month if you dare. Self love is the priority. It's there. It's time to awaken it. The day is what you make it. Whether you feel like "Sunday Funday" or "Moody Sunday", get up, welcome it with a smile and don't waste it. Accept the things you cannot change. Focus on the things you can. Learn something new. Today. Feel it. Taste it. Let it sink into your soul. Sometimes miracles happen and sometimes you're the one who can make most of them happen. Have faith in you and nothing lasts forever. Yes, that cliché everyones hates. Breathe. Stay connected to your breath. And drink water. Lots of water. Keep your soul full. Stay committed. Learn from it. Eventually you will forgive and let go. One step at a time. Life is about experience. How old are you again? Mooove!

A few things to remember:

1. Stick to your guns. Sometimes you have to take the risk and go all in. The only way out is through. Remember that and don't give up. Ever. That's the law. The only law.

2. Mahatma Gandhi once said, “The weak can never forgive; forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

3. You are a spiritual being, an amazing individual and you're in control of your life. Stay positive. You have the smarts and the ability to get through this. You'll only fail if you quit.

4. Sometimes you may have to fight and struggle to heal your soul and sometimes you just have to sit back and do nothing, but you have the guts and you WILL get there. It gets better. You have so much potential. Keep moving.

5. Remember, walls can be destroyed. So, starve your ego, quiet your mind, reach your heart and breathe. You have a soul. It is there. Awaken it. Tip toe if you must but take the step.

6. Creating the best version of yourself is the goal. Accepting and forgiving yourself is the journey. You're a work in progress. Don't let fear hold you back. Expand your mind. Trust your body. Double trust your instincts.

7. Every day is a new day. Start all over if you have to. You can make the most of it or the worst of it. Open your arms and let go. Trust. Embrace. Be grateful. You're an artist. Let go. And fly.

8. What goes around, comes around! You deserve the best! Never compromise! Breathe! Set goals! Stick to your guns! Let go or it will eat you alive! You're here! That's all that matters. I'm so proud of you!

9. Commit to your actions, not your expectations.

10. The only way out is through.